Emotional Intelligence, Executive Functioning & Social Skills

What Is The Problem?

Did you know that a child’s ability to handle frustration, control emotions, and get along with others is a better predictor of success than IQ? Fortuntely, EQ can change and increase with practice, unlike IQ, which tends to stay the same throughout life.

Emotional intelligence is being smarter with feelings. It can be called EQ (for emotional quotient), and it is the ability to integrate your thinking and your feeling to make the best possible decisions.

Stress, Anxiety and depression is on the rise, and it is growing. Not only with adults, but children and youth are struggling and don’t understand the link between their emotions and learning. It is affecting them in brutel ways, socially, emotionally and academically.

What can we do? Learn about EQ, the data of emotions, how feelings are messages that can help us, strengthening EQ skills and taking charge of your own wellbeing (Mind, Body & Heart). Thats Were My Services Come In!

Research shows people with more EQ skills, have stronger relationships, make better decisions, are more effective, better academic achievement, and influential, and overall a higher quality of life. Great! So how do you get that? Thats Were My Services Come In!

My goal is to help you and your family THRIVE in life! I’m here to hand you valuable tools you’ll need for the journey. Lets connect and get started!

How Can I Help?

“The Person being coached is not lacking, they simply need someone to tap into the microphone and turn up the volume so they can hear their own sound”

I offer EQ coaching for Kids, Teens, and Adults!

My ONE- ON- ONE & Group coaching provides fresh insights with proven tools and strategies to put EQ into action by focusing on what you need emotionally to step foward on your goals.

My techniques and coaching comes from my professional career working in Schools. providing Speech and Language Therapy, Transition Career Services and being a Social+ Emotional Intelligence Coach  serving students with Social emotional challenges.

Ongoing Training and Certified through Six Seconds, The largest Emotional Intelligence Network Globally, helping Families, Schools, Businesses strengthening EQ skills and my personal experience as a mom of 4 who makes practicing EQ a priority.

Hire me as your Social+ Emotional Intelligence coach by enrolling in my coaching program “Thrive In EQ”.  Providing a explicit instruction and create a step by step blueprint to make immense transformation and lasting change.

I have dedicated my career to helping youth and their families practice Emotional Intelligence, increase Executive Functions and Social Skills to create positive change in their life.

 Coaching For Kids & Teens

I have experience working with students who have autism, emotional disabiltlities, learning disabilties, language and articulation delays and disorders, pragmatics and more… Some students get services at School and some don’t due to testing strengths. Some just need coaching on how to practice EQ in School and in life.

I witness so many kids struggling in three main areas of Social Emotional Skills to self-regulate and navigate. Emotional intelligence skills being able to manage emotions smarter, Social Skills everything from your work performance to relationships and Executive Functioning skills, basic skills of self-management, organized thinking that results in goal production, goal behavior, setting and achieving goals. It’s impacting them emotionally, socially and academically!

Parents are looking for ways to help their child learn and practice how to use and apply Emotional Intelligence skills in order for their child to thrive in school and life.  These Skills can be taught and practiced (That’s Were My Services Come In!)

 Coaching For Adults

“The value of another perspective is invaluable” One on One coaching provides an opportunity for parents to get on the same page. Parenting is the toughest job, there’s nothing like it. Emotional Intelligence help parents get through the toughest parent dilemmas.

Are you a parent who’s dealing everyday with stress, challenging family relationships, no time for self care, want to offer your kids the best future they could have? Well, welcome to the club!

If you’re on the edge of your seat desperate to learn how to build a schedule that allows you to manage your time, learn to parent with EQ, increase your wellbeing to gain more motivation and energy so that you can make your dreams happen without sacrificing your relationships and mental health, this program is for you.

You have the knowledge, energy and skills to solve problems in your life within you, but -how can you tap into it? That’s Were My Services Come In! I can support you to stay in alignment and move forward skillfully to put it into ACTION so you can be your best self. I’m about to hand you the tools you’ll need to build a lifestyle that will set you up to accomplish and sustain your wildest dreams!

With coaching language can be a catalyst to make positive changes in life and parenting. Providing a explicit instruction and create a step by step blueprint to make lasting change with a simple but transformational approach you can apply everyday to live the life you deserve.

Emotional Intelligence Mastery For Parents

Parents create a EQ foundation and recognize its value in today’s world . You will receive positive strategies to add to your parent EQ toolkit of simple & proven techniques to practice EQ with yourself and your family to ease Anxiety, Stress and Busyness. Walk away with tools and next steps to have high EQ to improve your relationships skills, effectiveness, wellbeing and quality of life!

Parent EQ Toolkit will include step by step action steps to increase:

  • Peace & collaboration, Balance & calm, Purpose & meaning
  • Effective ways to strengthen childrens social and emotional learning in 5 key areas
  • Improve the way you interact with others and collaborate to reach goals.
  • Powerful tools to be in alignment with your children in area/topic of struggle. Individuals will strengthen skills to decode, recognize their own, and other people’s emotions, and label them appropiately.
  • EQ Wellbeing/Wellness Strengthen 3 critical areas to live your best life. Mind clarity (Healthy & Energized) Physical Vitality (Healthy & Energized) Social Connection (Connected & Supported)

I’d love to be a guide for you as you bring your ideas to life. Come alongside you from feeling exhausted to maintaining energy and achieving your dream goals.

Executive Functioning Mastery

I know you desire to have the space in your busy schedule that’s required to accomplish your goals and live out your purpose. I also know that all of this seems so out of reach because the way you’re operating in your everyday life often leaves you feeling overwhelmed, frantic, and exhausted.

For adults, How do I know? BECAUSE I HAVE BEEN THERE! I’m a mom of 4, Working 2 jobs, starting an online biz, and still trying to show up for myself and the people in my life was HARD. I want to give you the tools and strategies that took me so long to figure out RIGHT NOW so you can start managing your time with ease and flow less stress and busyness.

For kids, How do I know? BECAUSE I WORK WITH THEM AND THEY TELL ME! Struggling to prioritize time management, complete homework, manage time with friends and family etc. causing unnecessary overwhelm, stress and worry. I want to give them the tools gain a better understanding of of the many ways these strategies can improve academic performance, social problem solving and decision making, self-regulation, time management and more.

Learn specific strategies to help strengthen an individuals basic skills of self/time management. Access to ready use templates and clear simple action steps to:

  • Organized thinking that results in goal production, goal behavior, setting and achieving goals.
  • Improve MOTIVATION, increase ENERGY to get more done in less time (Improve Time management, Organized Thinking & Orginizational Skills)
  • Get things done, organize priorities to complete task, such as, homework and test.
  • Improve Self Management Skills to manage relationships with peers and family, life skills, self-care, self regulation and responsibilities without overwhelm or stress….It’s possible I promise
  • I’d love to come along side you to prevent “the crash” and “burnout” to maintain energy and functioning to execute and take action on achieving your Nobel goals. 

Emotional Intelligence Mastery For Kids & Teens

Emotional intelligence skills developed through a process called “social emotional learning” (SEL). Learn the Core skills needed to be successful in School, at Work & in life!

Let me join your tribe and help coach your child to increase their Social communication skills by learning the 21st essential EQ skills to people skills, grow friendships, reduce conflict, grow connections, reduce isolation.

 Core Emotional intelligence Skills taught and practiced:

  • Effective ways to grow and strengthen 5 essential Social and emotional skills to succeed in School, at Work and in Life!
  • Self-Affirmation/Positive self talk
  • Self-Advocacy skills positive strategies to express needs and wants to achieve noble goals
  • EQ skills to manage stress and busyness and build resilence skills
  • Learn how the brain works, how to develop a healthy Mindset to achieve your goals
  • Effective strategies and tips to have high EQ skills to improve in effectiveness, relationships, wellbeing and quality of life

There is overwhelming evidence that our children are facing major social, emotional and mental health obstacles to succeed in school. Learning these SEL core competencies improve students relationships to their School and community and broader world.

Thrive In EQ Programs Are Developed from Set of 5 Core Principals

Module 1: Emotional intelligence

Gain an understanding of EQ and recognize its value in today’s world. Powerful tools to be in alignment in area/topic of struggle (decode and understand your emotions and label them appropiately). EQ skills to increase Peace & collaboration, Balance & calm, Purpose & meaning.

Module 2: Effectiveness (Influence & Decision making)

Engage Intrinsic Motivation to pursue Noble goals.  This includes Self-management by gaining energy to priortize your task, manage your time, effectively manage stress, set and achieve goals with time in your control. Create effectiveness with habits that work to accomplish your goals without sacrificing your mental health and relationships.

Module 3: Building Relationships (Network & Connecting)

Building strong foundations in relationships in your personal or professional life you desire through connection with yourself and others. This includes Social awareness skills, exercising Optimism, increasing empathy and enhancing Emotional literacy to establish and maintain healthy relationships

Module 4: Quality Of Life (Achievement & Satisfication)

Create a EQ foundation using Six Seconds EQ (KCG) Model in our day to day lives. Increasing Self-awareness skills to get clear on what you want by recognizing your patterns to effectievly solve problems, conflict, and stress. Knowing your strengths and limitations using a  “growth mindset” to move forward on achieving your goals to have a better quality of life.

Module 5: Wellbeing

Discovering the benefits of creating a habit that works with a routine. To create space to practice 3 critical skills of wellbeing, physical vitality (Body), Mental Clarity (Mind), Social Connection (Heart). Action steps that work for you to manage thoughts, feelings and actions. To find and follow purpose, make more effective decisions, connect with others and lead a more whole-hearted life.

FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS (FAQ)

Who benefits from coaching these skills?

Anyone can benefit from working on specific important components to build and  practice Emotional Intelligence. Whether your parent, teacher, have a learning disability,  teen or young adult, with or even without social emotional challenges.

Coaching is a partnership of equals to strengthen insight, make better choices and achieve purpose. Coaching is a way to partner with our clients, building a trust-based relationship. Ask powerful questions so the client develops clarity. Stand as “guide on the side,” honoring the client’s wisdom so they fnd their own solutions. Engage the client’s strength & encourages the exploration of the emotions that drive action steps. invite the client to see they have the resources and capability to sustain growth.

With guidance, language can be the catalyst to make positive change in your life and your parenting. Coaching helps to strengthen your inner resources so you can be an even more capable and confident parent and partner.

Coaching will provide a better understanding of what Executive Functioning, Social Skills and Social Emotional Intelligence is and most importantly, how it impacts academic performance, self-regulation, time management, relationships and more. How to apply in school, home, work and in life.

Create insight into the power of feelings and navigate emotions by someone who supports you in making a meaningful change.

Learn to get better and work towards feeling confident in social situations so you can feel connected in the community your are in. Coaching provides the right strategies and essential tools to feel connected and thrive in your community which is beneficial and gives opportunities to succeed at work, school and in life.

What is Social Skills?

Social Skills is the term that refers to individual’s ability to interact with other people, understanding social rules, using correct body language, using appropriate language, and using empathy to understand the world from someone else’s point of view.

To connect with others and getting better with social skills is to identify Social awareness. The ability to take the perspective of and empathize with others, including those from diverse backgrounds and cultures. The ability to understand social and ethical norms for behavior and to recognize family, school, and community resources and supports.

  • Perspective-taking
  • Empathy
  • Appreciating diversity
  • Respect for others

Most Common coaching skill sets taught but not limited too:

  • Self-Advocate/talking up skills
  • Collaboration with adults and peers
  • Turn-Taking
  • Greet Others
  • Start a conversation
  • Respond to others
  • Asking for help
  • Social Anxiety
  • Making Eye Contact
  • Body Language
  • Topic Maintenance

What is Executive functioning?

Executive Function“are a set of processes that all have to do with managing oneself and one’s resources in order to achieve a goal. It is an umbrella term for the neurologically-based skills involving mental control and self-regulation.”
-Drs. Gerard A. Gioia, Peter K. Isquith, Steven C. Guy, and Lauren Kenworthy (2000)

Weaknesses in a set of important mental skills that are key to learning and get things done. These skills are controlled by the area of the brain called Prefrontal Cortex.

Areas of weakness include (i.e; organizing, planning and prioritizing, starting and completing tasks, doing things independently, regulating emotions, self-monitoring keeping track of what you are doing and more).

Executive function coaching helps clients identify which skills are strengths and weaknesses, working together on goals to overcome weak executive functions to successfully be able to complete homework on time, manage time with family and friendship to maintain relationships and live independently as an adult.

My coaching program focuses on learning a clear understanding of executive functioning and the many ways it impacts academic performance, self-regulation, time management, and more. Shift our thoughts, awareness on how we link between our emotions and learning to create a better habit change.

Learn essential tools and strategies to help strengthen an individual’s organized thinking and improve motivation and organizational skills. Skills that are holding us back from getting things done, how to balance our time to maintain our  relationships with peers, adults and family.

What Skills Will Be Coached?

It depends on individual needs. Focus is identifying our self-awareness, what is holding us back from connecting with others and what we are struggling in emotionally, socially or academically in the current environment we are in.

Targeting and diving deep into the root cause of the area of our core values, strengths and challenges we have by boosting and putting Social Emotional Intelligence skills into action. Rather than focusing on a particular problem (examples: “poor social skills” “stress management” or “anxiety”) we will focus on competencies that build positive behaviors and reduce negative behaviors to improve in the skill we want to thrive and improve in.  

Looking at how our emotions and behavior is affecting us thrive and then creating a action step plan on how to be successful in those areas.

Emotional Intelligence/Social Emotional Learning skills, 5 main core competencies and Executive Functioning skills. The skills needed to succeed in school and life. Demonstrating and modeling how to apply skills in real-life situations.  

  • Self-Management fosters a means by which to balance emotions in the interest of making progress towards our goals. The ability to successfully regulate one’s emotions, thoughts, and behaviors in different situations — effectively managing stress, controlling impulses, and motivating oneself. The ability to set and work toward personal and academic goals.
  • Social Awareness helps us connect with and understand the people around us. The ability to take the perspective of and empathize with others, including those from diverse backgrounds and cultures. The ability to understand social and ethical norms for behavior and to recognize family, school, and community resources and supports.
  • Self-Awareness The ability to accurately recognize one’s own emotions, thoughts, and values and how they influence behavior. The ability to accurately assess one’s strengths and limitations, with a well-grounded sense of confidence, optimism, and a “growth mindset and self-science.”
  • Relationship Management guides effective interactions with others to make a greater impact.  The ability to establish and maintain healthy and rewarding relationships with diverse individuals and groups. The ability to communicate clearly, listen well, cooperate with others, resist inappropriate social pressure, negotiate conflict constructively, and seek and offer help when needed.
  • Responsible Decision-Making is the ability to make constructive choices about personal behavior and social interactions of the well-being of oneself and others. To make constructive choices about personal behavior and social interactions based on ethical standards, safety concerns, and social norms. The realistic evaluation of consequences of various actions, and a consideration of the well-being of oneself and others.
  • Executive Functioning Skills, weaknesses in a set of important mental skills that are key to learning and get things done. These skills are controlled by the area of the brain called Prefrontal Cortex. Areas of weakness include (i.e; organizing, planning and prioritizing, starting and completing tasks, doing things independently, regulating emotions, self-monitoring keeping track of what you are doing and more). Skills needed to succeed academically in school and socially with friends and family.

Most common skills topics taught but not limited too. It depends on individual needs.

  • Social and Emotional Intelligence skills
  • Executive Functioning skills managing time and organizing  (i.e; appointments, develop routines, planner, managing priorities, time management)
  • Relationship Management (i.e;Friendships/Maintaining Friendships)
  • Self-Awareness
  • Problem Solving
  • Social Skills/Conversation Skills/collaboration skills
  • Problem solving/Anger Management skills
  • Perspective Taking/Empathy skills to relate and socially connect with others
  • Taking Turns skills
  • Self-Advocate/Speaking up skills/self-determination
  • Unexpected/Unexpected Behavior

How will you provide one on one coaching if out of state or Location far?

I will be your virtual partner using Tele practice/Virtual Learning Live Via Zoom.

Tele practice is a Live web-based platform such as i.e. (skpe, facetime, webcam) communication at a distance. It’s fun, convenient and effective way to provide coaching and services.

Is Coaching Therapy?

No. Coaching provided can be beneficial to therapy, such as exercise and self-care, but it is NOT meant to replace consultation or treatment provided by a certified Speech Therapist, Physiologist, Psychiatry or Therapist. It can’t treat mental health issues such as depression.

Coaching is a partnership of equals to strengthen insight, make better choices and achieve purpose. We…

• partner with our clients, building a trust-based
relationship.
• ask powerful questions so the client develops
clarity.
• stand as “guide on the side,” honoring
the client’s wisdom so they find their own
solutions.
• engage the client’s strength & encourages the
exploration of the emotions that drive action
steps.
• invite the client to see they have the resources
and capability to sustain growth.

“Any human being will blossom in a hundred
unexpected talents and capacities simply by being
given the opportunity to do so.”
– Doris Lessing

What is your coaching approach?

I do NOT believe you should have a one-approach-fits-all mentality as a coach. I assess what approach works best for your child. I am a strong believer and alignment with Social and Emotional Intelligence, I try to be very solution-focused.

Exposure to Mindfulness (Growth mindset), Self-Science, Social Thinking, Social Emotional Learning (SEL),  Emotional Intelligence (EQ), Emotional literacy is typically an integral part of my coaching approach and style.

In our initial session, we will work together to find the approach that will be the most effective with your child.

Coaching Process Focus: 

Initial measure skills with an assessment

Create a Action Step Plan (I have a 3 step action plan process I teach)

  1. Self-Awareness, Learning about ourselves and how to act certain situations. Raising awareness in how we control and use our own emotions so we can build self-awareness of whats holding us back from getting better and thriving in those situations. Gaining awareness of their own emotions, intentions, and thoughts so can they become aware of others.
  2. Practice and build Social Emotional Intelligence skills
  3. Transition to apply skills to use in community (i.e; work, classroom, home, peers and adults etc.)

Using Evidence-based strategies and essential tools of processes that helps you get from where you are, to where you want to be. Teaching Important social components in interactions and social situations needed in everyday in the community. Learning to how to shift our thoughts and the direct link between emotions and learning.

Expectations and measurable goals are set and agreed upon to help achieve action goals to connect with others to succeed at school, work, careers and in relationships.

How long is coaching session and what is the cost?

Typically a session runs 30-55 minutes long. I have a sliding scale $40-$150.00 based on length and sessions needed. While a single session is valuable and leads to identifying barriers of a specific skills to self- regulate Social-Executive Functioning, the real benefit of working with a coach is experienced through an ongoing relationship aimed at achieving your goals, from start to finish by creating long-term positive support.

What is Social and Emotional Learning and Emotional Intelligence?

Social Emotional Learning (SEL) is the process through which children and adults acquire and effectively apply the knowledge, attitudes, and skills necessary to understand and manage emotions, set and achieve positive goals, feel and show empathy for others, establish and maintain positive relationships, and make responsible decisions.

Specific social-emotional skills like self-awareness, self-management, empathy, perspective taking, and cooperation. They are lessons in Emotional Intelligence aka (EQ,EI). In short, getting smarter with your feelings.

Emotional intelligence is the ability to perceive emotions, to access and generate emotions so as to assist thought, to understand emotions and emotional knowledge, and to reflectively regulate emotions so as to promote emotional and intellectual growth. Mayer & Salovey, 1997.

As humans are predominantly social, understanding emotions in oneself and others is an important skill to have, and a good part of the brain is devoted to that effort.

As such, emotional and social development are tightly linked to one another. Another key component of emotional development, namely emotion regulation, is not less crucial to socialization. In social activities (e.g., being at school), it is often necessary to control emotional reactions, either positive (e.g., excitement) or negative (e.g., frustration) in order to accommodate to norms and goals. Therefore, the development of executive control is central to emotion regulation.

Social-Emotional Learning as described at www.CASEL.org

I’m a strong believer in Social Emotional Learning and teach all my students and clients how to gain self-awareness of our social behavior as its determined by our social cognition.  Has a large affect in how we think and problem solve in situations.

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