How are you?
I mean, really.
How are you doing?
✨Yesterday I took my son shopping to prepare for senior picks and all the other events that come with high school years coming to an end
✨We got out of the car and I started crying, Standing in the parking lot, sun shinning right on his beautiful blue eyes, he says “Mom it’s ok to cry, but we are just shopping for a shirt I’m not going anywhere”
✨After I got myself together I took this pic in the parking lot, I wanted to cherish this memory and time with him. I told him how proud I was for letting me feel all my feels and not rushing me even though people are starring at us in the parking lot. Sometimes you just need a good cry, and that okay.
Then, I got home home and my 10 year old was sick, puking and all the other fun stuff that comes with being sick, I asked him, “Are you ok, you were fine today and Dad said at football practice you were great” he says “I’m sick now so obviously I’m not ok, I just want to cuddle with you”
✨ I was still in my work clothes, haven’t been home yet, house was a mess, I wanted so badly just get in my PJ’s and do my night routine, but these times are precious and only last so long, so I just cuddled with him until he feel asleep even though he’s 10.
Learning to stay in the present moment helps us relax more, enjoy being present in life and all the emotional roll coaster rides that come with it
One thing I was reminded by my friend Andy is looking back is the root of depression, and looking ahead is the root in anxiety…but looking around was the root in peace.
So I wanted to share with you two ways to stay in the moment in times our mind drifts into hard parts of past and worries in the future and helps to ease your fight-or-fight response in difficult situations.
✨I learned and practiced daily the “Grounding Technique” An effective way to help being in the present using our 5 senses (touch, taste, sight, hearing, smell.) To gain control of your body when overwhelm and anxiety tries to take over!
✨Doesn’t matter what order you do it, your getting your brain to come back into the moment so it can calm down and start to feel at ease again.
✨I had to do this in the parking lot so I can get myself together to enjoy the time with my son. My mind started drifting on how sad I am he’s growing up, is he ready for adulthood? Is he ready for college? What if something happens? What if he gets anxious?
✨The grounding technique helped me stop the what if thoughts from taking over so I can enjoy being in the present moment with my son and experience having this time together.
#2 Do a Emotion check-in throughout the day. I like to do during transitions to work, after work, before and after meetings, kids go to school and after school etc.
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